How Well Do You Know Me? 48 Questions for Couples (With Answers to Pick From)

48 how well do you know me questions with four answers

Ask the question out loud, read the four answers, and let each person secretly choose the one that fits them best. Then guess what the other chose. The questions are grouped into the game's four packs.

Favourites

1. My favourite season is… Spring / Summer / Autumn / Winter
2. My perfect pizza is… Just cheese / Loaded with meat / Packed with veggies / With pineapple, yes
3. My favourite hot drink is… Coffee / Tea / Hot chocolate / Just water, thanks
4. For a cosy movie night I pick… A rom-com / A thriller / An animated film / A comedy
5. My favourite kind of dessert is… Chocolate anything / Fruity and fresh / Ice cream / Warm and baked
6. My favourite place to eat is… At home / A street food stall / A cosy café / A fancy restaurant
7. The music that makes me sing along: Old classics / Current pop hits / Rock or metal / Songs from my childhood
8. I love getting a gift that is… Handmade / Really useful / An experience / A surprise treat
9. My favourite kind of weather: Hot and sunny / Crisp and cool / Rainy and cosy / Snowy
10. My favourite time of day is… Early morning / Afternoon / Evening / Late at night
11. On screen I love stories that are… Really funny / Full of mystery / Heart-warming / Epic adventures
12. On a rainy day I most want to… Read with a warm drink / Binge a series / Cook something yummy / Take a long nap

Daily habits

1. My perfect Sunday morning is… Sleeping in / A long walk / A big brunch / Getting things done
2. When I'm stressed I usually… Go quiet / Talk it all out / Clean or organise / Reach for a snack
3. In the morning I am… Up at the first alarm / A dedicated snoozer / Slow, needs coffee first / Annoyingly chirpy
4. After a long day I most want… Couch and a series / A walk or workout / To cook a nice dinner / To see friends
5. When I'm lost, I… Check the map / Ask someone / Trust my gut / Wander and hope
6. When plans change last minute I… Roll with it / Need a moment / Make a new plan fast / Secretly love it
7. My texting style is… Instant replies / I reply when I can / Voice notes / Memes and emojis
8. Getting ready to go out takes me… 10 minutes / About 30 minutes / An hour or more / Depends on the plan
9. When I'm really happy I… Sing or hum / Laugh out loud / Tell everyone / Smile quietly
10. To recharge I need… Time alone / Time with you / Time with friends / Time in nature
11. In a disagreement I tend to… Say it right away / Cool off first / Think, then talk / Lighten it with a joke
12. When I get home I first… Change into comfy clothes / Check the fridge / Flop on the sofa / Put on some music

Dreams

1. My dream holiday is… A beach / A city break / A mountain trek / A road trip
2. If I won the lottery, first I'd… Travel the world / Buy a dream home / Share it with family / Save most of it
3. I'd love to learn… A new language / An instrument / To cook like a chef / A sport or craft
4. My dream home is… A house by the sea / A cottage in the woods / A city apartment / A farm in the countryside
5. The superpower I'd pick: Flying / Invisibility / Reading minds / Time travel
6. I'd most love to see… The northern lights / Ancient ruins / A famous world city / A giant waterfall
7. With a free year I'd… Travel everywhere / Study something new / Create something / Rest and recharge
8. My dream pet would be… A dog / A cat / Something exotic / No pets, thanks
9. As a kid I wanted to be… A vet / An astronaut / A teacher / A performer
10. My dream retirement is… Travelling nonstop / A garden and quiet / By the sea / Busy with hobbies
11. One day I'd love us to… Take a huge trip / Build a cosy home / Learn something new / Watch a sunrise abroad
12. The trip I'd take tomorrow: A week on a beach / Island hopping / Trains across a country / A cabin in the snow

About us

1. My favourite thing about us is… How we laugh / How we talk / How we relax together / How we back each other up
2. My first impression of you was… Funny / Calm / Confident / Mysterious
3. The first thing I noticed about you: Your smile / Your eyes / Your voice / Your style
4. The way I feel loved most is… Kind words / Time together / Thoughtful gifts / Hugs and touch
5. The nicest thing you do for me: Make me laugh / Make my coffee or tea / Remember small things / Say it will be okay
6. My idea of a perfect date with you: A picnic outdoors / A candlelit dinner / An adventure day / A cosy night in
7. When we're apart I miss… Your voice / Your hugs / Our jokes / Our little routines
8. I feel closest to you when we… Laugh together / Talk late at night / Sit in comfy silence / Do nothing at all
9. I'd happily relive one thing with you: Our first date / A favourite trip / A lazy random day / Our first hello
10. I'd describe us as… Best friends / Partners in crime / A cosy team / An ongoing adventure
11. I say 'I love you' most by… Saying it out loud / Giving hugs / Doing little favours / Surprising you
12. A tradition I'd love for us: A weekly date / A yearly trip / Sunday breakfast / Sunset walks

How to score your answers

1. Each of you picks one answer about yourself and keeps it secret (holding up 1, 2, 3 or 4 fingers under the table works).
2. Then each of you guesses the other's answer. Say the guess out loud before the reveal.
3. Reveal together. One point for every right guess.
4. Before you move on, ask one question about any surprise: "What made you pick that one?"

Play six questions for a short round. Here is what a score can mean, kindly:

A score is a conversation starter, not a verdict. Nobody knows everything about another person, and that is part of the fun.

Get the most out of these questions

• Answer honestly, not what sounds best. The game works when the answers are really you.
• Add a "why?" after the reveal. The reason is often the best part.
• Take turns choosing who reads and who answers first, so nobody feels quizzed.
• Keep a note of the surprises and use them for gifts, dates and little jokes.
• Skip any question you would rather not answer. It is a game, not a test.

If you guess wrong, do not say "how do you not know that?". Try "I did not know that, tell me more."

Which pack should you start with?

Play it free online

1. Open How Well Do You Know Me? in your browser. There is no download and no account.
2. Choose a pack (or Mix for all four) and 8 or 12 rounds, then press Start.
3. On the same sofa, choose Same phone and pass it over. Far apart, choose Online, tap Play a friend and Create table, and send your partner the invite link.
4. Each of you picks your own answer, then guesses. The answers are revealed at the same time.
5. At the end you see how well you know each other and one thing worth talking about.

For more games to play together, see games for couples, our guide to card games for couples, and the Daily 5 in This or That.

Why guessing games feel good

Relationship researchers sometimes talk about knowing your partner's inner world: their routines, hopes and small preferences. John Gottman called this a "love map". A game cannot measure a relationship and no score predicts anything, but asking and listening is a pleasant way to keep that map up to date.

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